Sunday, July 11, 2010
The Perils of Playing House
Our society doesn't take cohabitation as seriously as they should, I can say this from experience. Living together should be viewed as a more committed relationship then people in our generation actually see it. I still have some mixed feelings about living together because I really do believe it's a great way to see if you can handle each other, but the stats prove that it doesn't really work. I don't know if I could just move in with someone after our wedding night, what if we couldn't stand each others habits? I still think it's a good idea to move in together when you get engaged but people shouldn't take engagement or moving in lightly, it's very sad but it's something our society is guilty of. People move in together and don't like certain things about each other but they aren't willing to work with each other because they aren't even serious about the relationship. I never understood why people moved in together when they weren't even thinking they wanted to marry each other. It's important to me that both of us take the relationship very seriously before we move in together because I want it to actually work. I'm not one of those people that just move from relationship to relationship and not even care. I have to say that some people don't believe in marriage and they do just want to live together but their views on the relationship is the same as a married couple, they are committed only to each other, they are willing to care for each other when they're sick, they basically view the relationship exactly the same as a healthy married couple. Those people in my opinion make the relationship work but they're very uncommon. Sorry for the short post I just really don't have a lot to say on this subject, I realized I repeated myself a lot……
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I wouldn't say that the statistics say "it doesn't really work," just that it's less likely to work. It really depends more on the couple's intentions then the actual fact of cohabitation.
ReplyDeleteI really agree with what you said (even if you did repeat yourself). I think that if everyone took cohabitation seriously and went into it with the intentions of sticking around and making things work even when times got tough (like a marriage) then that stats would say something completely different. Our generation doesn't take cohabitation seriously at all which weakens the idea of marriage because now if times get hard you can just go get a divorce.
ReplyDeleteI think if you're willing to marry someone you would be willing to take whatever habits they have. I mean what's moving in going to tell you, that he doesn't like taking out the trash, that he doesn't know how to seperate colors and whites, but those are all things which should not matter at all. What matters in marriage is; is he going to support you, is he going to be there for you, and is he going to treat you with respect, all things that can be learned without living together.
ReplyDeleteI agree that you should be in a very serious relationship before moving together. I had a friend that moved in with her boyfriend so she didn't have to live with her mom. Using someone like that is wrong. If your moving in with someone for your benefit its never going to work out.
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